A dear friend of mine and fellow business owner whom I trust, K, shared her wisdom and experience with me yesterday. "Find a balance." Starting a new business can be all consuming. Yes, I am a budding entrepreneur, but first I am a wife and mother (and I also have a 'real' job as a nurse!). I have small children who deserve to see more than the back of my head as I work on the computer. This season of life is precious and fleeting. I have years and years ahead of me without children pulling on my pants saying, "Mommy, watch this!" Putting too much focus on building my business has the potential of pulling my attention away from where it should be...relishing in the joy of my dear children who want nothing more than to spend every moment with me. I know they won't always feel that way. All that being said, my wise friend also empathized with the sentiment that, this is ME. Not mom, wife, but ME as a woman and who I am. Pouring myself into my work feels good because it is what I love to do. I have found in my relatively short three year tenure as a mother that finding a little "me time" makes me a MUCH better mom.
So, here are my take away thoughts for the day (some, courtesy of K):
- If I haven't spent time with the Lord yet that day, I have no business working on 'business'
- If my children, "Mommy, watch!", stop what I am doing...always...and turn my eyes to them because they deserve my undivided attention
- Save work for when it doesn't interfere with family. Sometimes I can do both (knitting in front of the TV while we all watch a movie), but if I can't, family ALWAYS comes first.
- Use nap-time to recharge with "me time" whether that is working on my business or just reading a book with a cup of tea
If you are struggling to find balance, I hope this helps a little. To be honest, this post is much more for me to get my thoughts out on the subject of balance. But if it helps anyone else find a little, what a blessing!
Thanks for the post Abbie! I just posted a similar article on my blog as well. It was about prioritizing...I think! LOL! I know as a new business owner, especially of an Etsy shop, you want it to do well, and it does take a lot of effort in order for it to succeed. I keep seeing this over and over about how investing so much time in your business isn't worth the expense of your children! Thanks again!
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